We all have these maddening times where we become so overwhelmed with all the "important" things we have to do. So many things to do and places to be. As I was driving to school the other day, the thought occurred to me that I haven't done anything special for my boyfriend for a loooooong time. If I think that I'm busy, he's at least twice as busy as me, so finding time when our schedules actually match has been difficult to say the least! I'm really proud of him for working so hard and I see him excelling in every area of his life. It's a pretty amazing thing to see. So the idea that I hadn't been showing him how special he is to me really struck me because I was probably driving along thinking, "I'm not a priority, he doesn't love me, why doesn't he make time for me, blah, blah, blah," and then to think the exact opposite thought, "you are not making him a priority, you are not doing anything nice for him, he probably thinks you don't love him anymore," helped me see things differently. Whether or not that was the actual reality of the situation doesn't really matter (although I would never want him to feel that way!) but it woke me up to realize time was speeding by and I wasn't being there with someone I really love. So I got my hamster wheels turning on what to do and later on that week we had a really nice Friday night date.
When we get so overloaded with things to do in our lives we take the people we love for granted. We take for granted that they will still be here when we hardly spend any time with them. We take for granted that they are ok, that everything is fine and that one day we will have time for them. It's an awful way to think because we will never have time if we don't make time. Get your priorities straight. You don't always have time for a date night, you do always have 30 seconds to give your sweetie a hug and a kiss and tell them how wonderful they are and how much you appreciate them. Everyone needs to hear that from their partner. . . even if it might seem otherwise. The time that you have together is special, so be with them and look into their eyes. Tell them a joke and keep it light.
Is life all about toiling and meeting deadlines? What are we doing here on this planet? I don't think its to be a slave to money and maybe a job you're not that excited about. Who wants to be a slave when we actually have the power to choose what we want in our lives. We can choose how to live our lives and decide what's important. Little by little, that's what I am trying to do and it makes me a happier person for it.